have an account? log in
A problem shared is a problem halved! Sign up
Aidpage is a social
network for
mutual support.
Ask for help
Offer help
Sign up now

cb's nana

Talk to cb's nana
Show: Conversations cb's nana only
cb's nana  

Single Mother of 3 with Pregnant Child

Aug 22, 2005

I am a single, divorced mother of three (ages 22,17, 10).  Three months ago, my oldest daughter was abandoned by her fiance when he discovered she was pregnant.  She had just been laid off her job at a lawyers office due to cash flow problems at the firm.  She has always suffered from depression and gastroenteritis, and she has been incapcitated by this break up.  At 7 weeks, her placenta tore, so she has been unable to seek employment to help alleviate the expenses.  She has no insurance.  The doctor alone will cost $3,100 if no other complications or special services are required.  She has already incurred 1 trip to the emergency room for the torn placenta.  I take home $1,918 a month with $875 going to rent, an average of $250 (winter) and $350(summer) in electric bills, $60 to $70 in gas bills, $70 in water bills, in addition to telephone, gasoline and food bills.  The $500 a month that must be paid to the doctor thru the 7th month takes me to my limit.  I am seeking a grant to help alleviate some of the expenses until my daughter is well enough to participate in the funding of this pregnancy.

reply to cb's nana
cb's nana  

cb's nana

Aug 22, 2005
I am 48 years old and have been divorced for 8 years.  Money has always been tight and everytime I think I am about to get ahead, something sweeps my feet out from under me.  My daughter inherited her depression from me.  I have been diagnosed with Chemical Depression.  When my oldest was 17, I had a complete breakdown.  She was my strength and provided the emotional support to get me thru one of the worst times of my life.  I had been thru a divorce, lost my father to cancer, nursed my mother thru her own bout of suicidal depression, had a breast cancer scare (4 tumors diagnosed as pre-cancerous), and had a hysterectomy all within 2 years.  It proved more than I could cope with.  Despite her young age, she fought not only for my sanity, but to keep our family together, taking on a role of suragate mother to her younger siblings.  Together, we pull thru it all.  Despite having recurring bouts with gastroenteritis that put her repeatedly in the hospital and caused her to miss over 6 months of her junior and senior years, she graduated in the top 10 percent of her high school class of nearly 500 kids as a member of the National Honor Society.  I have always been extremely proud of my daughter, and it is now my turn to return the favor she gave to me.  Three months ago my daughter was abandoned by her fiance after he learned that she was expecting their baby.  She had just been laid off by her job and had no insurance.  It is my hope to provide a peaceful and safe pregnancy and delivery for her first child.  This is a child, not planned for, but much loved.  Due to many health issues, doctors had repeatedly told her from age 14 that she would probably never have a child.  This is a child we will always celebrate.  My daughter is going thru this experience without a spouse, but I will do everything within my power to make this a joyous experience for her.  I gladly take on the financial burdens of this pregnancy and will try to give her as much time as possible after the baby is born to experience motherhood to its fullest as though there was a husband and father in the picture to provide the support necessary to enable this.  This is why I am seeking help in financing this pregnancy.  My salary alone barely makes ends meet without doctor bills, hospital bills, and baby expenses.  I am looking for grants that will lighten the load.  Thank you for taking the time to read this.
reply to cb's nana